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Essential Oils for Romance

Did you know that essential oils can enhance a romantic mood? Because people are strongly impacted physically and emotionally by scents, the aromas of some essential oils are great aphrodisiacs. But essential oils can help with more than providing a lovely scent.

Essential Oils for Romance

Much of the following information is from the Modern Essentials Personal Usage Guide section. Keep in mind, however, that if an essential oil is unappealing to you or your spouse, don’t use it. Needless to say, it will distract from rather than enhance your romantic experience.

Arousing Desire:
An aphrodisiac is a substance used to stimulate feelings of love or sexual desire. Many books on aromatherapy tout the aphrodisiac qualities of a number of oils. Perhaps an aphrodisiac to one individual may not be to another. The most important factor is to find an oil that brings balance to the mind and body. A balanced individual is more likely to extend love.

Some oils that are known to be aphrodisiacs include sandalwood, ylang ylang, rose, jasmine, Blend for Women, cinnamon, ginger, and clary sage.

Another oil that may be worth trying because it is a warming oil and may help improve circulation is black pepper. A single drop can help enhance a massage blend. Make sure to always dilute this oil though.


Female frigidity is a female’s lack of sexual drive or her inability to enjoy sexual activities. This disorder has many possible physical and psychological causes, including stress, fatigue, guilt, fear, worry, alcoholism, or drug abuse.

Some oils that may help with frigidity include clary sage, ylang ylang, Blend for Women, and rose.

Impotence in men, also known as erectile dysfunction, is the frequent inability to have or sustain an erection. This may be caused by circulation problems, nerve problems, low levels of testosterone, medications, or psychological stresses.

Some oils that may help with impotence include clary sage, clove, rose, ginger, and sandalwood.

Libido (Low):
Libido is a term used by Sigmund Freud to describe human sexual desire. Causes for a lack of sexual desire can be both physical and psychological. Some possible causes include anemia, alcoholism, drug abuse, stress, anxiety, past sexual abuse, and relationship problems.

Some oils that may help with libido include ylang ylang and Joyful Blend.
Men: Some oils that may help with low libido in men are cinnamon, ginger, and myrrh.
Women: Some oils that may help with low libido in women are clary sage and geranium.

Ways to Use Essential Oils to Enhance Romance

Massage Oil: Combine 3–5 drops of your desired essential oil(s) with 1–2 Tbsp. fractionated coconut oil or sweet almond oil to use as a massage oil.

Diffuser: Add 3–5 drops of your desired essential oil(s) to a diffuser, and diffuse into the air.

Perfume or Cologne: Simply dilute a drop of essential oil with a little bit of carrier oil, and apply to temples, neck, or wrists to wear as a perfume or cologne. Roll-on bottles are an easy way to apply your perfume or cologne.

Bath: Combine 1–2 drops of essential oil with 1/4 cup Epsom salts, and add to warm bathwater when filling the tub. You can also use this recipe for a bubble bath and just substitute the lavender oil for a romantic scent.

Breath Freshener: A great way to freshen your breath is to place a drop of peppermint essential oil on your tongue or dip a toothpick in cinnamon essential oil and suck on it for a minute.

Personal Lubricant: To create a personal lubricant, combine 3–5 drops of essential oil with 1–2 Tbsp. coconut oil. Some essential oils that may be great for this are lavender, black pepper, peppermint, clary sage, or ylang ylang. A black pepper and peppermint essential oil combo provides a warming/cooling effect that can be exciting. A blend you can try is 3 drops ylang ylang, 1 drop black pepper, and 1 drop peppermint essential oil.

Linen Spray:

Romantic Linen Spray

Time: 2 minutes active | Difficulty: Easy



  1. Mix liquid glycerin and essential oils in a small spray bottle. Fill the remainder of the bottle with distilled water, screw lid on, and shake to combine.
  2. To use, simply spray in the air, on clothes, or on pillows or bed linens.

Source: Modern Essentials: A Contemporary Guide to the Therapeutic Use of Essential Oils, 7th Edition, pp. 264, 360–361

The information above is an abridgment from the Modern Essentials “Personal Usage Guide” section by AromaTools™. This information has been designed to help educate the reader in regard to the subject matter covered. This information is provided with the understanding that the publisher, the authors, and AromaTools™, LLC, are not liable for the misconception or misuse of the information provided. It is not provided in order to diagnose, prescribe, or treat any disease, illness, or injured condition of the body. The authors, publisher, and AromaTools™, LLC, shall have neither liability nor responsibility to any person or entity with respect to any loss, damage, or injury caused or alleged to be caused directly or indirectly by this information. The information presented is in no way intended as a substitute for medical counseling. Anyone suffering from any disease, illness, or injury should consult a qualified health care professional.

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